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Full Moon in Cancer - 1st January 2018

For the US and Canada, this Full Moon will be on January 1st, 2018, on a Monday (Moon Day!), such potent timing! For Europe, Asia, Australia, and New Zealand, this will be on January 2nd. 

The Full Moon is when the Sun and Moon are opposite to each other and the Moon reflects back the light of the Sun to the Earth. This is a time of harvesting and full bloom. Harvesting? This feels contradictory to the new beginnings of the year 2018, right? 

It is, and I will explain this in more detail below.

The Sun is in Capricorn, the sign of authority, hard work, perseverance and financial security and the Moon will be in Cancer, the sign of nurturing motherly love, and emotional security. 

These two ways of security can easily be mixed up and mixing an Earth sign (Capricorn) with a Water sign (Cancer) will give you... exactly, mud. Difficult territories to plow through, marshes to get lost in.

This confusing line-up makes you acutely aware where your insecurities and uncertainties are. Sun in Capricorn is how we show ourselves to the world. We act, make choices and set goals aligned with what we know others want from us (our parents, school systems, mentors, teachers, government systems, banking, social structures, churches). It is the way we are programmed to feel secure, safe and self-reliant because when we act in accordance with 'the rules', we are taught to be safe and guarded. It is the socially acceptable behavior we need to uphold to succeed in life.

The Moon in Cancer stirs our deepest emotions around emotional security. We want to be seen for who we really are, and unconditionally loved! But to show to the world who we really are is scary... we fear rejection, punishment, or the loss of jobs, bonuses, love, community... All leading to insecurity and confidence issues.

This creates so much tension! 

We want to be safe, but we also want to be authentic and loved.

However, as long as we are trying to externally validate ourselves, we will never be able to live authentic lives.

The challenge is to be your own authority. To love yourself unconditionally for who you are. To make choices for yourself that sustain YOU and create the life YOU want. To do the things that make you feel happy, relaxed, abundant, loved, healthy, special, open, effortless, alive, nourished... 

There is no authority but yourself.

You are in charge. You can choose whatever you want. You don't have to be afraid. This is what the Full Moon in Cancer wants to tell you, that is what you can access now. The harvest of your personal journey over the last few months shows you what is important to you and who you really are. The truth has surfaced and now you can make aligned choices.

You can create everything you are longing for when you know what you are longing for and what you truly need.

This year, resolutions stated at the beginning of the year are not as powerful as they could be. Ideally, intention setting is most powerful at the New Moon (just after Dark Moon).

During the next two weeks, now that the stressful busy holidays are over, take some time for yourself to think about and feel into your resolutions, plans and goals before you plunge yourself into the new year and burn out on restrictive resolutions (diets, sports regimes, socially 'acceptable' behaviour, not doing ...) that come from guilt, stress, fear, or 'shoulds'. 

The next New Moon will be on January 16/17th. To create intentions for this New Moon, aligned with your goals, your needs, and deepest motivation, you need clarity first. Only then your intentions and resolutions have transformative power. Make sure to add self-care rituals into your day as well.

New Moon in Libra - 19th October 2017

The next New Moon will be in Libra on October 19th at 21:12 pm CEST. New Moon occurs when the Sun and the Moon are aligned and we don't see the Moon because there is no sunlight reflected towards the Earth. Therefore, at New Moon, the Sun is always in the same sign (in this case: Libra). New Moon is the phase where we have to look within, at the shadows. We can do this by immersing ourselves in silence and contemplation. It's dark and we can feel it.

Libra is all about relationships and balance. We need constructive connections in order to feel supported and loved. The reality is that we often settle for less than constructive relationships. The Libra New Moon invites you to take a closer look at the relationships that you're in. Are they nourishing you, giving you energy and support? Are you a nice person to be around in that particular relationship, or is your energy being sucked out, leaving you short-tempered and acting out? Is it serving everyone involved? Libra can help you make conscious decisions about unbalanced relationships. What are you going to do to bring back the balance?

The sign of Libra is depicted as a scale in the hands of a blindfolded female judge and is therefore associated with justice and fairness. When we look at our outside world, the news, events happening on a local and/or global scale, we can easily see the injustice done. Often it consumes us entirely and we may feel powerless and helpless by it the scale of the destruction. 

When you feel overwhelmed by the news, take a break from it. Although nowadays we have access to information from all over the globe, it's impossible to control everything that happens on the planet. The only thing we have power over is our own inner world and Libra invites us to take a closer look at our personal inner/outer balance

When we bring balance to our inner world, we will be more able to create things and make decisions from this place of inner peace. Our inner world will be reflected outwards and it will shape our reality.

You can compare it to this example of how inner and outer worlds are connected: 

When you are stressed, chaotic, unstructured, overwhelmed inside, there is a fairly good chance that your living room is also messy (and the other way around). By cleaning up your personal space, you will create a feeling of peace and order within yourself. This inner feeling of peace will influence how you show up in the world, the conversations you have, the people you will attract, the actions you will take. 

The world is your living room.

That is why it is so important to look within, fight your inner demons and bring a state of balance into your being. If we don't do this first, our messy inner world will project itself outward, contributing to the conflict, manipulation, neediness, greed, anger, destruction and so on we see around us. 

Although starting with the focus on yourself seems selfish, it really isn't. How can we do something about the state of the world when we are unbalanced, stressed, messy inside ourselves? It is important to honor your inner space and bring peace into it. Then we can shift our focus to the outside world and start cleaning up the mess we created collectively. 

So, again, start small, in your own life. You can set intentions around cleaning up and finding balance this New Moon. 

Clean up your house. Set boundaries, evaluate relationships. Finish projects, check the boxes. Love more, hug more. Find the balance in your life, do yoga, meditate, reduce stress. Turn off the news. I'm serious, turn it off. This will help you to feel less stressed, less helpless, less consumed with things you can't control. You will be able to focus more on your inner world and it will bring awareness to the things in your own life that need your attention, the things you can do to make a difference (like supporting good causes like TreeSisters). 

Doing small things will help you gain some traction. Remember that the ocean is made up of many individual drops. Start small and see where it gets you!

Go help someone in your neighborhood who can use it. Clean up your local park. Recycle plastic. Even better: don't use it at all. Use green energy sources whenever possible. Take the bicycle or public transport instead of your car. Buy a plane ticket with CO2 compensation. Donate (this can be a small amount) to causes that have your heart. There are many great causes that you can contribute to from your easy chair. It's a great way to start contributing while you are cleaning up your inner world.  

Please join me for the TreeSisters One Billion Trees Sacred Healing project. This project will be launched on October 19th with the Call to Dream Ceremony.

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